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Unique Self Dialogues

Below you will find resources for understanding a variety of perspectives on the Unique Self.

Marc Gafni and Don Beck in Dialogue

Marc Gafni, Don Beck, and Katherine Woodward Thomas in Dialogue

Ken Wilber, Andrew Cohen, and Marc Gafni on Kosmic Creativity

Marc Gafni and Andrew Cohen in Dialogue

Marc Gafni and Susanne Cook-Greuter in Dialogue

Marc Gafni and Craig Hamilton in Dialogue

Marc Gafni and Terri O’Fallon in Dialogue

Marc Gafni and Joel Monk in Dialogue

Marc Gafni and Michael Murphy in Dialogue

Marc Gafni and Terry Patten in Dialogue

Marc Gafni and Charles Randall Paul in Dialogue

Marc Gafni and Richard C. Schwartz in Dialogue

Unique Self Dialogue: Ken Wilber & Marc Gafni, Part 1

Unique Self Dialogue: Ken Wilber & Marc Gafni, Part 2

Unique Self Dialogue: Ken Wilber & Marc Gafni, Part 3

Unique Self Dialogue: Ken Wilber & Marc Gafni, Part 4

Unique Self Dialogue: Ken Wilber & Marc Gafni, Part 5

Unique Self Dialogue: Ken Wilber & Marc Gafni, Part 6

Unique Self Dialogue: Ken Wilber & Marc Gafni, Part 7 on Shadow

Unique Self Dialogue: Ken Wilber & Marc Gafni, Part 7 on Unique Self Therapy

Thought Leader Dialogue: Richard Barrett & Marc Gafni on Unique Self, Organizational Leadership, and the Destiny of Nations

Conscious Capitalism meets Unique Self: Thought Leader Dialogue between John Mackey and Marc Gafni in 7 parts

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Weekly Evolutionary Church Saturdays 9-10 am PT

Click Here to Register for Our Evolutionary ChurchYou’re invited to join us on Saturday mornings from 9:00-10:00am PT, beginning this Saturday October 29th for Evolutionary Church: A communion between new humans participating in the evolution of culture and consciousness.

Evolutionary Church is where we gather to articulate, discover and experience the living memetic codes within our very being that are guiding us towards a positive future and evolving public culture.

>> Attend Evolutionary Church This Saturday At 9am PT <<

Together, we will:

  • Recover hope through our memory of the future
  • Reveal the direction of our personal and collective evolution
  • Fulfill our vocations of destiny
  • Awaken as our irreducibly unique selves and claim the beauty and obligation of our notes in the unique self symphony

What To Expect:

Evolutionary Church is an interactive, live-streamed event during which Barbara Marx Hubbard and Marc Gafni will usher us into a resonant field of allurement and love that serves as a potent catalyst in revealing the direction of our personal and collective evolution.

Each week Barbara and Marc will introduce an evolutionary theme and articulate a message based that theme. Then YOU will be invited to speak your voice, as part of the Unique Self Symphony, into what Teillard De Chardin called the Noosphere, the evolving consciousness of reality – enabling it to get it’s collective eyes.

Evolutionary Church is more than hearing a sunday sermon–it is a living transmission that nurtures and amplifies the evolutionary impulse within you, activating the emergence of

  • New creativity
  • New possibility
  • New innovation
  • New joy

>> Join Us This Saturday at 9am PT/ 12pm ET for Evolutionary Church <<

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Marc Gafni on Evolutionary Unique Self & the Unique Self Symphony (Part 31)

Continued from part 30.

The next step is to wake up. Wake up to your true nature as an irreducibly unique expression of outrageous love. Who are you? You are an outrageous lover. What does an outrageous lover do? An outrageous lover commits outrageous acts of love. Which outrageous acts of love does an outrageous lover commit? Those that are a function of your Unique Self. It is only your outrageous acts of love emergent from your Unique Self which come together with other outrageous lovers committing their unique outrageous acts of love that have the capacity to heal the entire story.

That, my friends, is the basis for a radical hope. It’s the basis for a realistic but radical optimism. For it is the natural expression of human nature and evolution itself.  The sacred technology of evolutionary intimacy–another way of saying outrageous love—has the potential to create heaven on earth. I have spent the last several decades intensely searching and studying everything I could lay my hands on, reading tens and tens of thousands of pages in every tradition, pre-modern, modern, and postmodern. This is I know, way and above, the most realistic and hopeful vision of the evolution of love that we have today. We live in a world of outrageous pain. The only response to outrageous pain is outrageous love. Let’s awaken together and transform our world.

The End.

Taken from a first draft text from the forthcoming book The Path and Practice of Outrageous Love by Marc Gafni and Kristina Kincaid, this series elaborates on a critical advancement of the Unique Self Dharma that Dr. Marc has developed after Your Unique Self was published.

To start from the beginning go here and then follow the To Be Continued links.

Marc Gafni on Evolutionary Unique Self & the Unique Self Symphony (Part 30)

Continued from part 29.

An Invitation

Everywhere one looks there is outrageous pain. There is public pain and private pain. Seventeen million slaves exist in the world today—that’s more than there were at the height of the slave trade in the US two hundred years ago. Today 17,000 children die every day from starvation and twenty million children die of starvation every year. Billions of people are brutalized by loneliness and alienation.  The list of public outrageous pain goes on and on.

Then there is the private outrageous pain. This is the stuff from your personal life that hurts so badly. It may be something that was done to you or that you did. It might be the pain of betrayal, where you were either the betrayed or the betrayer. Or both. It might be the pain of a part of your life that is unlived or unloved. When you really face the pain, it is excruciating. So your turn your face away and get busy. We’re so frightened by outrageous pain that we’ve completely shut down. We close off our hearts because ordinary love cannot hold the pain.

The problem is, that we only have one heart. We cannot consistently shut down our heart and still remain openhearted. We think that we can selectively open our heart only to the channels of life whose programming appeals to us. That, however, is not the way the heart is designed. When you shut down you lose the signal and nothing comes. The result of repeatedly closing our hearts in face of the pain is loss of aliveness, depression, addiction and an unrelenting yearning for more.

The first step on the journey to awakening as an outrageous lover is to not hide from the pain. As a first step we need not to solve it, but turn our face towards it. Not all the time, but for only five minutes a day. The evolutionary mystics called this, “participating in the pain of love in exile.”

To carry out this practice, ordinary love is not strong enough to allow us to hold the pain. We need a larger love, wider and deeper love. That is outrageous love. But for now just locate outrageous love. Take a brief moment to think back on the largest love you have ever felt. Remember how in the embrace of that love there was room for everything? Now step into that love and double it. Triple it. Quadruple it. That is enough to locate the feeling tone of outrageous love. You can only respond to outrageous pain with outrageous love.

Now, from that place of outrageous love, think of a pain you are avoiding. Turn into the pain and stare directly at it for two or three minutes. Do not turn your thoughts away. Do not avert your gaze. Hold the outrageous pain in outrageous love.  That’s it. You have already done it. This is the first step to awakening that most people never take. Congratulations!

To be continued…

Taken from a first draft text from the forthcoming book The Path and Practice of Outrageous Love by Marc Gafni and Kristina Kincaid, this series elaborates on a critical advancement of the Unique Self Dharma that Dr. Marc has developed after Your Unique Self was published.

Marc Gafni on Evolutionary Unique Self & the Unique Self Symphony (Part 29)

Continued from part 28.

One of the laws of reality with which we began was, “we live in an intimate universe.” To be intimate meant to be both witnessed, recognized, seen and addressed. But it also meant mutuality. Both mutuality of action and mutuality of identity. Evolutionary intimacy is realized through the symphony of evolutionary Unique Selves each committing outrageous acts of love. In this, the human becomes God’s partner and a mutuality of partnerships is formed. Deeper still when the human being awakens as Evolutionary Unique Self realizing that he or she is an irreducibly unique expression of the love intelligence and love beauty of all that is – with unique outrageous acts of love to commit – the mutuality of identity between the human being and God is achieved. The human being becomes God’s verb.

You are an Outrageous Love Letter. The actual process of writing can help, but you are a LOVE Letter. Your life is a love letter. Your everyday actions are a love letter. Your energetic vibration in the world becomes a love letter.

In this vision personal love and intimacy and activism are seamlessly merged which is the critical need and invitation of our generation. The natures of the challenges that confront us are insoluble in the old top down model of government and the ruling elites. It is only a bottom up model of a self-organizing universe rooted in the Unique Self principle of Outrageous Love that shows us a profoundly hopeful path forward.

To be continued…

Taken from a first draft text from the forthcoming book The Path and Practice of Outrageous Love by Marc Gafni and Kristina Kincaid, this series elaborates on a critical advancement of the Unique Self Dharma that Dr. Marc has developed after Your Unique Self was published.

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