Awakening Your Unique Self Course

Are You Ready to Step Fully into Living Your Life’s Purpose? Would you like to find out now?

The good news is that it’s within your grasp now, even if you’ve been searching for years.

The fact that you’re still reading indicates that you’re on the edge of an incredible breakthrough that will bust your life wide open to all the possibilities you ever dreamed were waiting for you. They’re yours for the taking. There’s bad news too. The bad news is that what got you to the edge won’t get you over the edge… no matter how hard you try or how much you do.

We are excited to announce that we have turned Marc Gafni’s groundbreaking book, Your Unique Self, into a transformational 10-week course that starts April 24th!  

Your Unique Self, is essentially the blueprint for living an awakened life as an expression of your unique purpose. The book won the award for best spirituality book of 2012.

The 10-week course based on the book gives people like you the tools for reaching your highest potential, and for creating a life of joy, love and abundance.

Respected Authors and Spiritual Teachers Worldwide

MarcwithDalaiLama bwOver the last 30 years Marc Gafni has met with, taught with and collaborated with some of the world’s most respected authors, thinkers, and spiritual teachers, and has worked with thousands of people all around the world. (See list of endorsements below.)  The result is a new ‘technology of enlightenment’ that represents a true breakthrough in fields of spirituality and self-actualization psychology.

The Awakening Your Unique Self online and phone-based course will teach you a set of skills and practices that will bring you to the life that you have been searching for.

Because you do have a sense that you have a unique purpose for being on the planet at this time, don’t you? There might even be a place within you that feels special. Perhaps you have been taught that conscious evolution is about renouncing our specialness.

But stop and think about that for a moment. You know deep down that there is something special, or unique about you.  Now consider:

What if this place of specialness is calling you towards your greatest potential?

What if enlightenment is not about renouncing your uniqueness, but is about embracing it?

The Awakening Your Unique Self Course is a guide to doing just that. It’s a guide to enlightenment through embracing and offering your uniqueness to the world.

Not the uniqueness of your ego. But the uniqueness of your enlightened Self. That Self that is an integral part of the unshakable Whole.

It is the uniqueness of this Self that is calling you towards your greatest potential. Because you have gifts that only you can give.

Wouldn’t you like to be living an extraordinary life of purpose, giving your unique gifts to the world? That’s what this new, cutting-edge technology of enlightenment is all about. And in order to bring these tools into the hands of as many people as possible, we have created a 10-week online course that will take you into that purposeful life of joy, love and abundance.
Here is what leaders in the field are saying about the Unique Self teachings and Marc Gafni:

Many prominent scholars, luminaries, and spiritual teachers have already read Your Unique Self and offered their perspectives.


“Marc is a very inspiring and talented transformational teacher.” – Deepak Chopra



“It is very rare that one comes across a teacher or a book that is ‘changing the game.’ My friend, Dr. Marc Gafni is such a teacher. He is a rare combination of brilliance, depth, and heart. Marc’s teaching on the Unique Self in an evolutionary context is ‘changing the game.’” – Michael Murphy, Founder, Esalen Insitute, Author of Golf in the Kingdom


“DR. MARC GAFNI’S INTEGRAL UNIQUE SELF TEACHING IS SEMINAL. What you hold in your hands is a radically exciting and groundbreaking book that will change forever not only how you think about enlightenment, but how you understand, from a post-metaphysical perspective, the very nature of human life itself. The Unique Self work is magnificent, and it belongs among the ‘great books.’ It offers what may arguably be one of the most significant contemporary evolutions of enlightenment teaching. Unique Self brings together East and West in a higher integral embrace of stunning implications. Unique Self is a pivotal step toward an authentic Enlightenment. First published in his academic articles on ‘The Evolutionary Emergent of Unique Self, A New Chapter in Integral theory’, (JITP 6:1) the teaching of Unique Self Enlightenment appears for first time, fully articulated, in this classic volume.” – Ken Wilber, Author of A Brief History of Everything

John Gray“Dr. Marc Gafni’s teaching on the Unique Self radically evolves the way we understanding and realize enlightenment. He is a great teacher of both heart and mind.  His depth, practicality, and heartfelt charisma will change your life.” – John Gray, Author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus


Andrew Harvey“Your Unique Self is one of the most brilliant, provocative, and original books of the new century. Dr. Marc Gafni has fused together the deepest insights of the Eastern and Western mystery traditions to provide an evolutionary road map for the great birth that is arising in and through our contemporary world crisis. This is indispensible reading for all lovers of Integral Spirituality and universal mysticism. The vision of the Unique Self is absolutely essential for the next step of evolution, and I cannot recommend it highly enough.” – Andrew Harvey, author of The Hope: A Guide to Sacred Activism:

Andrew Cohen“Marc Gafni’s brilliant intellect and spiritual passion make him a force to be reckoned with. His deep knowledge and advocacy of Abrahamic mysticism, coupled with his inspired vision of a World Spirituality, offer a unique and significant contribution to the evolution of our understanding of God, religion, and Spirit in the 21st century.” – Andrew Cohen, Founder of EnlightenNext, author of Evolutionary Enlightenment

John Mackey“Dr. Marc Gafni has written an brilliant book, Your Unique Self, which I believe is essential reading. “Your Unique Self” articulates a bold evolutionary, spiritual, philosophy that calls every individual to realize their Unique Self and give their Unique Gifts in an evolutinary context. Gafni, together with his colleague Ken Wilber, is a bold visionary and a catalytic voice for the newly emergent World Spirituality movement, which combines the best of pre-modern, modern, and post-modern insight. I highly recommend this book.” – John Mackey, CEO of Whole Foods and Chair of Center for World Spirituality

“With exceptional brilliance and an awakened heart, Dr. Marc Gafni speaks to all of us who are interested in the evolution of consciousness. His teachings on the Unique Self enlightenment are essential for the next stage in our evolution. They have emerged from his direct experience, and I highly recommend them.” – Michael Bernard Beckwith, Author of Spiritual Liberation ~ Fulfilling Your Soul’s Potential


Barbara DeAngelis“Marc Gafni’s wisdom and insight moved my heart and inspired my mind. This new teacher of spirit … is sure to become an important voice in helping to chart our soul paths in the new millennium.” – Barbara De Angelis, Ph.D., author of Real Moments


Gangaji“Dr. Marc Gafni’s writing eloquently demonstrates the essentially mental—and futile—conclusion that there ever could be separation between “I” (oneself, me) and “Presence” (no-I, unity). Both “I” and “unity” are radiant refractions of the infinite mystery of beingness conscious of itself. I salute and support his expression and recognition of the uniqueness of each in all.” – Gangaji, American author, speaker, and spiritual teacher in the lineage of Poonjaji

davelogan-bwYour Unique Self is a great read. As is obvious from even flipping through its pages, Dr. Marc Gafni not only understands the material, but has lived it. The book is both thorough and fun, and will provoke deep thoughts. I meant to scan it on vacation and ended up reading it cover to cover in one sitting. It’s a book that is worth many readings. It will both fascinate you in its insights and annoy you that you haven’t read this book until now.” – Dave Logan, Ph.D., New York Times bestselling author of Tribal Leadership and former Associate Dean of USC Marshall School of Business

Sally Kempton“Your Unique Self could only have been written by someone who passionately lives his own uniqueness. Marc Gafni is a brilliant teacher and heart master with a rare capacity for empathy and a gift for creating community.  This book contains the essence of his teaching on what it means to live from an enlightened life from a ground of one’s own personal uniqueness. A truly ground-shifting book, it offers a perspective on personal transformation that integrates insights of traditional and post-modern wisdom. Reading it can change your understanding not only of your own path, but of what it means to live a life of inner contemplation and transformative service in the world. This is a book that deserves to become a classic.” – Sally Kempton, Author of Meditation for the Love of It

HarvilleHendrix-bw“This is a coherent, comprehensive and amazing book from an amazing mind on a challenging topic. Using the concept of the “Unique Self” as the essential reality behind all forms of the self, the author succeeds in integrating not only the historical East-West polarities regarding the nature of the self, the variables of spiritual practice and the meaning of enlightenment but also  the antinomies between psychotherapy and the spiritual traditions. His redefinition, extension and integration of the core meanings of healing,  wholeness and the self will expand the consciousness of all readers. I compliment the author’s intellectual and spiritual achievement and recommend it to all travelers on the journey to enlightenment.” – Harville Hendrix, Ph. D., Author of Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples

Warren Farrell“No one book has inspired me to cherish myself, respect others, and have hope for both this country and this world more fully than Your Unique Self. With insights as sharp as a knife and words that hone its blade, Rabbi Gafni hold before us the mirror of our unique selves and the molecular, spiritual, internal and external paths we might explore to enhance that uniqueness. An extraordinary future classic. Your Unique Self gives my unique self shivers.” – Warren Farrell, PhD, author of Why Men Are the Way They Are and The Myth of Male Power

Lama Surya Das“Marc Gafni’s overflowing heart and transmission of the Unique Self teaching profoundly moves me. Dr. Marc holds the lineage energy of the great Hasidic masters of Kabbalah, which he brings with him into the visionary initiative of Center for World Spirituality. There is little doubt in my mind that Your Unique Self: The Future of Enlightenment will become one of the classic texts that forms the World Spirit vision that our world needs so deeply. This is a book and a teacher that we all very much need.” – Lama Surya Das, author of Awakening the Buddha Within: Tibetan Wisdom for the Western World and founder of the Dzogchen Meditation Centers

Mariana Caplan“What I love about Your Unique Self is that among the nondual traditions, it stands alone in its conviction, demonstration, and celebration our uniqueness. It does not ask us to sacrifice our individuality in the service of the highest truth, but rather to become fully ourselves in order to be of greatest service in the world. Marc Gafni backs his vision with brilliance, passion, humor, personal integrity, and a life lived in dedication to articulating a world-changing dharma.” – Mariana Caplan, PhD, author of The Guru Question: The Perils and Rewards of Choosing a Spiritual Teacher and Eyes Wide Open: Cultivating Discernment on the Spiritual Path.

Wyatt Woodsmall“Dr. Marc Gafni’s Your Unique Self presents a new “universal spirituality for the 21st century”. It is a true synthesis of the enlightenment teachings of both East and West. It appeals to both the head and the heart and is highly practical. It is a must read for all spiritual seekers.” – Dr. Wyatt Woodsmall, author of The Future of Learning and People Pattern Power


Richard Carlson“Marc Gafni is an important and exciting new spiritual guide. With humility, genuine warmth, and enormous power, Gafni merges ancient wisdom with his profound insights to lead us back to ourselves.” – Richard Carlson, author of Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff


“At this historic moment, our human mind is passing the border towards a new consciousness. Marc Gafni is far enough ahead of most of us to articulate insights he gained beyond that borderline. Yet, like all great teachers, the author becomes transparent. Here is an invitation and a great opportunity to listen  — not to Marc Gafni, but to Your Unique Self. Thus this book becomes an indispensible travel guide into the realm of a vast new consciousness.” – Brother David Steindl-Rast, Benedictine monk and author of books including The Spirit of Practice

Rand Stagen“So often in our firm’s work, we see a pattern where high achieving CEOs struggle to reconcile the transcendence of their spiritual life with the practicalities of their organizational work. Dr. Gafni’s enlightened point of view offers leaders a highly accessible framework for expressing their Unique Selves through their organizations. This book is truly groundbreaking and should be in the hands of all aspiring conscious leaders.” – Rand Stagen, Managing Director of Stagen

Sean Esbjorn“Your Unique Self represents a truly planetcentric mysticism that provides a powerful way of integrating the enlightenment traditions of the pre-modernEast and the modern West. It has been easy for spiritual traditions to embrace profound states of Kosmoscentric consciousness, but they have often neglected to include the developmental capacities to take perspectives thereby falling short of an emancipatory worldcentric articulation. Marc Gafni’s teachings on Unique Self provide the first sophisticated and matureexpression of this “unique” integral position. Your Unique Self ushers in an exciting new chapter in Integral Theory  building on the most widely applied meta-framework on the planet and extending it into new contexts of embodied enlightenment.” – Sean Esbjörn-Hargens PhD co-author of Integral Ecology and editor of Integral Theory in Action

Eben Pagan“If you’ve bumped up against the paradox of experiencing your life daily as a unique individual, yet continually hearing from spiritual circles that “we’re all one” (and knowing that there’s something to that idea, too), then read Marc Gafni’s awesome book Your Unique Self. Marc resolves the paradox beautifully, and, in the process, helps connect each of us to our unique gifts and opportunities in the world.” – Eben Pagan, entrepreneur and consultant


“I am usually stingy with superlatives because their meaning has been so diluted by overuse, but I cannot control myself regarding this book — it is truly brilliant. If offers an engaging and erudite corrective to tendency in the spiritual community to disdain personal uniqueness and worship transcendental oneness; the striving to rise and remain above the ego and the material world. Instead, Gafni says go ahead and transcend but then reclaim your uniqueness no the other side of transcendence and bring your unique enlightened consciousness back to this world with you, and use your unique gifts to change it for the better. It would be entirely accurate to say that Internal Family Systems and Unique Self are overlapping models which recognize each others insights while each excels in its own domain. The integration of these two models fosters a creative synthesis that is nothing short of revolutionary in its implications for healing and transformation.” – Richard C. Schwartz, Ph.D., clinical psychologist and author of Family Therapy: Concepts and Methods


The Unique Self Teaching

The genuine success of your life depends on the ability to distinguish between your ego and your unique personal self. The ability to make this radical distinction is the key to true evolutionary creativity. It is the step that lets you recognize how the love-intelligence of the cosmos—the Tao, God, Essence– lives not just in you, but AS you. At that point, you realize the unique gift, obligation, and contribution that you are born to offer into the world. When you recognize that, through the particularity of your perspective which births your Unique Gift, Your Unique Obligation and your Unique Path.

Many of us are aware that we are participating in a momentous leap of human consciousness – a leap that demands that each one of us step into our own unique, post-egoic Self. Only when we know ourselves as that can we truly recognize our oneness with each other and with the larger evolutionary context. Uniqueness is the currency of connection, an animating essence of the erotic impulse of evolution. The journey that you will take in this course will awaken the creative impulse of evolution’s eros that lives you, as you and through you. Your joy, your ethical imperative, your love, your sexuality, your parenting, your shadow work are all radically awakened and evolved through the first principle. Unique Self is the change that changes everything. Awakening to Your Unique Self is the key to living an extraordinary life. It is your access code to individual and collective evolutionary realization of the good, true and beautiful which is the very goal of evolution’s arrow.

The Awakening Your Unique Self Course is designed to help you actualize the truths of radically personal enlightenment—the emergence of the unique self that comes on-line when you step beyond the false self ego.

The classic enlightenment teachings wisely evoke in us a recognition of our original wholeness. They awaken the realization “You are not separate from the whole.” Every great enlightenment tradition reminds us that the source of virtually all unecessary suffering is in the illusion that your separate self ego is all that you are. This is the illusion that induces fear, death terror, panic and anxiety, which in turn trigger the painful grasping games of ego. These games, which include brutal competition, alienation, rages and jealousies in turn create even more sufferring. This is the wheel of illusion from which enlightenment frees us. Classic enlightenment teaches you to move from identifying with a separate egoic self to the recognition that separation is an illusion, and that you are a part of the One.

However, this is only the first half of a complete enlightenment teaching. The second step is absolutely essential. Enlightenment does not mean that become part of a featureless field. Enlightenment has an individual perspective. Your personal enlightened perspective is infinitely unique, special and profoundly necessary to the evolution of all that is. Complete enlightenment requires the realization of this unique self. Your Unique Self is not your personality or your ego. It is rather the uniquely awakened capacity and perspective of your True Self. True Self plus personal perspective = Unique Self. Unique Self is the song only you can sing. It is the poem your were born to write. It is the way of laughing loving, living, being and becoming that is yours and yours alone to live.

When you realize your Unique Self, it radically redefines your understanding of sexuality, relationship and parenting. It shifts your sense of pleasure, joy, and purpose. It gives you a radically different perspective on shadow, and on virtually every other dimension of your life.

Unique Self enlightenment liberates enlightenment from the esoteric discourse of spiritual elites and makes it a genuine option for people living full lives in the world. The process is both faithful to the deepest wells of the great traditions, and fully true to the new reality of our global contemporary world. Many are saying that the Unique Self vision may well be part of the tipping point that makes spirituality and awakening a genuine choice for mainstream men and women!


A prototype version of the Unique Self Course was offered to a group of 75 students in 2010.

These were some of the reports by participants:

“I feel a new sense of sustatined aliveness in my life which is nurtured daily by the insights and practices I learned in the course.”

“I am committed not to settle but to live an extraordinary life through my unique self.
My sexuality is finally satisfying in a way i never imagined it could be.
I feel the joy of playing a larger game in every day of my life.”

“Shadow work has taken on an entirely new meaning and for the first time really guides me home to myself.”

“The realization of the high moments are now really becoming the ground from which I live and love.”

“I know in at the most basic celluar level that my life is intrinsically meaningful. My search for a life that matters is over. I now know in my first person that the life I was searching for is my own.”

“I feel at home in the universe. My place is clear. I do not want to be anywhere else.”

“I thought enlightenment meant being perfect and giving up your personal story. Now I realize that enlightenment means something so much more profound and it is truly a genuine option for every person.”

“I feel the joy of being truly powerful. I never believed that living from a place of enlightened consciousness was a genuine option if you did not live in cave in Nepal. I realize that I was wrong and I am thrilled.”

“It feels like the Unique Self call for the democratization of enlightenment might be the most important ingredient we need to really evolve consciousness on a society wide scale.”

“What all of these people are describing is the core shift in understanding and experience enlightened consciousness that lies at the core of the Unique Self teaching.”

The Unique Self Course Logistics and Weekly Topics:

We will meet weekly by live teleconference (phone or Skype dial in) every Wednesday at 6pm Pacific Time. These calls will be recorded and made available the next day. We will also be interacting via an online learning portal. Many learning resources will be provided (audio, video, worksheets) as well as specific weekly practices we will engage to deepen our insights and revelations. Following is a week-by-week list of topics we will be exploring.

Week One: The Invitation, Obligation and Joy of Unique Self

  • What is Enlightenment?
  • Two Tastes not One Taste; Being and Becoming
  • The Five Faces of Self: Separate Self, False Self, True Self, Unique Self, Evolutionary Unique Self
  • Unique Self, Eros, Creativity and the Evolutionary Impulse
  • The strange relationship between sanity and normalcy or why normal consciousness is insane
  • Why you never can and never should evolve beyond ego
  • The great confusion between separateness and uniqueness
  • Seamless not Featureless and why that matters
  • The New Enlightenment of Unique Self
  • The Dance between Parts and Wholes
  • Enlightenment is Unique
  • Impersonal Enlightenment is True but Partial

Week Two: The Glory of the Story

  • Why you should not leave your story behind
  • Mythologize don’t Pathologize
  • The Radically Personal Nature of Enlightenment
  • Love, God and Integrity are in the Details
  • Pre-Personal to Personal
  • From Impersonal to the Higher Personal
  • The Trap of Fame
  • Living Your Sacred Autobiography
  • Your Letter in the Cosmic Scroll
  • Family of Origin Motifs
  • Meaningful Patterns and Themes
  • The Enlightenment of Fullness
  • The Democratization of Enlightenment
  • Destiny, Detour and Destination

Week Three: False Core, False Self and the Transformation of Identity

  • The Observing Ego
  • Revealing Your Hidden Story
  • Your False Core
  • The True Nature of Your False Self
  • Your Limiting Beliefs

Week Four: Awakening to Your True Self

  • Realize Your True Self without Evolving Beyond Ego
  • Beware of the Stepford Wives
  • The Shift in Identity
  • The Path of Meditation
  • The Path of Dance
  • The Path of Loneliness
  • The Path of War
  • The Path of Sacred Chant
  • The Path of Embodied Compassion
  • The Path of Ethical Obligation
  • The Path of Ecstasy

Week Five: Unique Self and the Three Faces of God

  • The Evolutionary Impulse is not God: True or False?
  • The God you do not believe in does not exist
  • Unique Self is not Impersonal
  • Why Meditation is not Enough
  • Hiding out in “I am”
  • The Danger of Evolutionary Spirituality
  • Reality Knows Your Name
  • The Narcissism of I am God
  • The Truth of I am God
  • The Truth of I am not God
  • Unique Self, Christ and Love

Week Six: Unique Self and Ego:

  • Sustained transformative contact with the transcendent
  • Unique Self on the other side of Emptiness
  • Ten Crucial Distinctions Between Unique Self and Ego
  • Injustice or Justice
  • Yes or No
  • Bigger or Smaller
  • Betrayal and Loyalty
  • Eros or Grasping
  • Satisfaction or Greed
  • Greed is Great
  • Embracing the Animal
  • Victim or Player
  • Pleasures Delusion and Divinity
  • Why Your Unique Self is the Key to Your Joy
  • The Democratization of Enlightenment and what that means in your life.
  • Practical examples of how to feel the difference between your ego and Unique Self
  • How to avoid demonizing the ego even as you transcend your identification with Ego
  • How the Ego points towards Unique Self

Week Seven: Unique Self: A Paradigm Shift in Loving

  • We have killed all the Gods except for Aphrodite
  • The Three Faces of Love
  • The Three Meanings of Love
  • The Three Stations of Love
  • The Three Skills of Loving

Week Eight: Unique Wound and Unique Shadow

  • Three Steps Beyond Jung
  • Why “Shadow Integration” is a bad idea
  • Five Principles of Unique Self Shadow Work
  • The 3-2-1-0 Process
  • Shadow and Joy
  • Shadow and the Divine Feminine
  • Shadow and Story
  • Shadow and Unlived Life
  • Shadow and Life Energy
  • Shadow and Unique Self Distortion
  • Between Shadow and Shadow Qualities
  • From Unique Shadow to Unique Self

Week Nine: Answering the Call

  • Unique Gifts and Obligations
  • Unique Self
  • Unique Perspective
  • Unique Insight
  • Unique Gift
  • Unique Joy
  • Unique Love Intelligence
  • Love = Obligation
  • Five Principles of Unique Obligation beyond Law or Religion
  • Unique Self Hints
  • Nine Principles of Unique Self Calls
  • The Call to Action
  • The Call to Curiosity
  • The Call to Love
  • The Call to Listening
  • Calls Take Time to Unfold
  • The Call of Passion
  • The Grand Call of the Ordinary
  • Risk Calls
  • Calls in Disguise

Week Ten: The Invitation to Unique Self Relationships

  • Relationships in an Evolutionary Context
  • Unique Self and Evolutionary We Space
  • The Ten Principles of Unique Self Encounters
  • Being and Becoming in Unique Self Relationship


When the course launches April 24th, the price will be $395. For a limited time, you can pre-register for the course and save $100!