Seven Laws of Unique Self Encounter: #7 – Unique Self encounters require not only integrity but evolutionary integrity

The following is an excerpt from Your Unique Self: The Radical Path to Personal Enlightenment by Dr. Marc Gafni. For the other 6 laws, see other posts on this site or Chapter 21 of the book Your Unique Self–which is available for purchase here.

SEEN FROM ONE PERSPECTIVE, life is a series of encounters with other human beings. Of these encounters, the ones that are most profound, pleasurable, and transformative are Unique Self encounters. The following is one of seven core rules that define a Unique Self encounter:

7. Unique Self encounters require not only integrity but evolutionary integrity.

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Your Unique Self is also defined by your evolutionary context. In a Unique Self encounter, you seek not only romantic, pragmatic, or emotional connection. You seek evolutionary relationship. In evolutionary relationship, you seek to manifest the evolutionary potential in your meeting. You let go of the narrow narcissistic needs that initially brought you together.

In an evolutionary relationship, you are obligated by evolutionary integrity. You identify the Unique Gift that your meeting holds. You see how this gift supports and furthers the ecstatic, evolutionary God-impulse that motivates and moves all of existence. Evolutionary integrity means that you bring all the people of the past, present, and future who might be affected by your decision into the room. You widen your sense of time from the immediate shallow time to deep evolutionary time.

The ethics of your decisions are then determined not just by the interpersonal matrix between the two of you, but by your evolutionary obligation to all that might be born from your meeting.

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