Evolutionary Unique Self, Outrageous Love & the Unique Self Symphony (Part 7)

Taken from a first draft text from the forthcoming book The Path and Practice of Outrageous Love by Marc Gafni and Kristina Kincaid, this series elaborates on a critical advancement of the Unique Self Dharma that Dr. Marc has developed after Your Unique Self was published.

Continued from part 6.

Evolutionary Intimacy

As we have said before, the cosmos produced only one you as a result of an unimaginable string of synchronicities. It took 13.7 billion years to manifest your irreducible uniqueness at every level of your physical, spiritual, and emotional being. All that’s needed is your Unique Self. You are a unique expression of the love intelligence. Reality needs your unique service. That means very simply that a love that can only come from you is needed in the world. Truly transformative and effective outrageous acts of love must emerge from a genuinely felt sense of outrageous love. Only that which wells up from the essence of our desires has the power to change not only our internal and external realities, but a new quality of intimacy. An evolutionary intimacy.

It is the same kind of intimacy that soldiers returning from combat have reported. Through the centuries, these reports are universal in character. All agree that war is a horror and should be erased forever from our vocabulary. Yet, even the most emotionally tied men yearned for the quality of communion that existed between him and his comrades in the trenches. They had all needed each other. Every one was interdependent. Every day and every night threatened to be the last. There was little room for the usual grasping of the ego. Posturing and social status had little meaning in the field. An often unspoken, but profound intimacy settled in between the men. When the war ended and the survivors returned to civilian life, there was desperate longing for that same kind of intimacy.

The failure to ever find that depth again, outside the context of battle, proved devastating for so many veterans and their families. The only place such intimacy can ever be found again is in the evolutionary intimacy of outrageous love. When Evolutionary Unique Selves, men and women, come together for the sake of the evolution of consciousness, which is no less than the evolution of love, bonds of intimacy, unlike any other, are formed.

The consciousness of Evolutionary Unique Self offers the only authentic response to the second shock. The emergence of separate self caused the first shock of existence. Only the evolution of a higher notion of self, self beyond ego, can effectively reconcile the second shock of existence. The Unique Self fosters the new structures of consciousness that are necessary to create evolutionary intimacy and rectify the damage from the second shock.

The two primary structures of consciousness are Evolutionary We Space and the Unique Self Symphony. These evolutionary emergents, which we will turn our attention to in a moment, are activated by the Unique Self and awakened, not by fear, but by outrageous love. Rest assured, while current conditions are dire, we are not starting from scratch. Love has been evolving all along. The evolution of love is happening, at the leading edge of consciousness, for growing numbers of people in parallel to the dominant modality of separate self drive to individual economic and collective technological achievement. People are waking up to the possibility of outrageous love; unique self and cosmocentric consciousness even as so many other people are remain asleep in their egocentric narcissism. As our technological success has proliferated, these new structures of evolved consciousness have emerged by their side. These new structures of consciousness are in fact an expression of the evolution of love. Moving from separate self to true self we realize our essential oneness. Without evolving beyond the consciousness of separate self, without awakening to the lived truth of Evolutionary Unique Self, we will die. Awakening as Unique Self is the only possible and elegant solution.

To be continued…