Taken from a first draft text from the forthcoming book The Path and Practice of Outrageous Love by Marc Gafni and Kristina Kincaid, this series elaborates on a critical advancement of the Unique Self Dharma that Dr. Marc has developed after Your Unique Self was published.
Continued from part 1.
Closing the Gap
There is only one way to heal the collective trauma of our generation. You must close the gap between your ability to feel and your ability to heal, and to do that we must enter the gap to rescue our innate human capacity for affection. To reclaim your potency you must open your heart. To become powerful you must become intimate. Intimacy is the source of all true power. Only in your willingness to become intimate again, to feel the heart of an other’s joy, and pain, can you recover your own potency and power.
To reclaim your access to outrageous love, you must first understand who you are. You must wake up to your true identity. When you do, you begin to play a larger game. You realize that you are not merely a skin-encapsulated ego, but an irreducibly, unique expression of the love-intelligence and love-beauty that is the initiating and animating Eros of all that is. A stunningly singular expression of the love-intelligence lives in you, as you, and through you. This unique incarnation of love never was, is, or will be ever again. You are a Unique Self. You are not merely a fingerprint. You are a Soul Print. You have a life to live and a gift to give which perfectly co-responds to a Unique Need in the world of UnLove. This unique place of UnLove in the world can only be addressed and healed by you. You cannot heal the entire world. But that is okay because you are not called to heal the all of reality. You are called by your uniqueness. You are charged to action by your uniqueness. The cosmos produced only one you as a result of an unimaginable string of synchronicities. Your Unique Self is needed by all that is. Reality needs your unique service. The world needs the love that can only come from you. When you awaken as Unique Self you are awakening into your enlightenment. You are awaking into the singular expression of the love intelligence that is your true identity. You are not meditating or praying your way to enlightenment. You are loving your way to enlightenment.
When you love your way to enlightenment you realize that you have outrageous acts of love to commit that can be done by no one else but you. You cannot commit outrageous acts of love from an ingrained sense of obligation to do good imposed on us by external codes of law and conduct. Truly transformative and effective outrageous acts of love must emerge from a genuinely felt sense of outrageous love. Only that which wells up from the essence of our desires has the power to change our internal and external realities.
There are two ways to re-open your heart to outrageous love. Both involve closing the gap between your ability to feel and your ability to heal.
1) You close the gap by recovering your ability to act and heal. You realize that you are not supposed to fix it all. Rather, you are called to commit your unique outrageous acts of love. This shift in perspective restores your potency. When you commit the very specific and unique outrageous acts of love that are yours and yours alone to commit, you experience your ability to heal which then allows you to open up again to your ability to feel.
2) By reconnecting with feeling, be it sensual, emotional, or aesthetic, you expand your power to heal. The feeling then further motivates you to perform outrageous acts of love. And, your heart opens.
The practice of writing outrageous love letters is a way of opening the contraction of ordinary life. Writing outrageous love letters arouses your capacity to feel the outrageous love which is your essence and which rouses reality from the cellular level to the most advanced consciousness. It is a way of healing and opening the heart. This spiritual practice of correspondence is a way of waking up as your unique manifestation of the outrageous love-intelligence and love-beauty that lives in you, as you and through you.