Evolutionary Unique Self, Outrageous Love & the Unique Self Symphony (Part 3)

Taken from a first draft text from the forthcoming book The Path and Practice of Outrageous Love by Marc Gafni and Kristina Kincaid, this series elaborates on a critical advancement of the Unique Self Dharma that Dr. Marc has developed after Your Unique Self was published.

Continued from part 2.

Insight: Our heart closes in the gap between our ability to feel the outrageous pain of the world and our ability to heal it. This happens into two ways.

1) The loss of feeling makes us impotent by cutting us off from outrageous love.  We then lose the power to heal.

2) The inability to heal because the pain is too large, closes down our ability to feel. We cannot feel because the largeness of the pain would short-circuit our lives.

Minding the gap between our ability to feel and our ability to heal is where transformation happens. This gap is critical because it points to a powerful insight that is missing in both spiritual and scientific literature: Our hearts do not merely close because of our personal heartaches.

There is a much greater broken heart, which pulses in us and all around us. Hebrew mystics referred to this larger breaking of the heart as the shattering of the vessels.

By committing outrageous acts of love you become part of the Unique Self symphony, transforming not only yourself and your circle of intimacy and influence, but also the wider field of culture and consciousness, which leads us to the Law of Evolutionary Intimacy.

To be continued…

Evolutionary Unique Self, Outrageous Love & the Unique Self Symphony (Part 2)

Taken from a first draft text from the forthcoming book The Path and Practice of Outrageous Love by Marc Gafni and Kristina Kincaid, this series elaborates on a critical advancement of the Unique Self Dharma that Dr. Marc has developed after Your Unique Self was published.

Continued from part 1.

Closing the Gap

There is only one way to heal the collective trauma of our generation. You must close the gap between your ability to feel and your ability to heal, and to do that we must enter the gap to rescue our innate human capacity for affection. To reclaim your potency you must open your heart. To become powerful you must become intimate. Intimacy is the source of all true power. Only in your willingness to become intimate again, to feel the heart of an other’s joy, and pain, can you recover your own potency and power.

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Evolutionary Unique Self, Outrageous Love & the Unique Self Symphony (Part 1)

Taken from a first draft text from the forthcoming book The Path and Practice of Outrageous Love by Marc Gafni and Kristina Kincaid, this series elaborates on a critical advancement of the Unique Self Dharma that Dr. Marc has developed after Your Unique Self was published.

The Law of Feeling and Healing

The Law of Feeling and Healing, while simple in explanation, is quite profound. As the gateway to a seemingly impossible evolutionary shift, this law is our access to the divinity and untold amounts of love, joy, and connection.

Fifty years ago, God was experienced by the great realizers and religions as both all knowing and all potent and powerful. Only God knew of the immense pain in the world. Today, boundaries around knowledge cease to exist and images of unbearable suffering penetrate our hearts, bodies and minds hourly. Consequently, there is an enormous amount of Promethean talk about humans becoming God-like with the power we wield. Ignoring the fact that such talk does not take into account the infinite power of cosmos, these erroneous conversations forget divinity is not merely the infinity of power but also the infinity of pain. As our power of knowledge increases so does our awareness of the depth of suffering. In one way, we are potent like gods; we have the never previously known ability to acquire depths of understanding and graphic detail about the horrific pain happening across the planet. Yet, while we know an enormous amount about the reality of suffering around the globe, we experience ourselves as impotent. We feel powerless. Unlike the gods, we are rendered powerless to heal the hurt surrounding us. For most of us, the only way we are capable of responding is to close our hearts.

The Gap Between Feeling and Healing

Enlightenment teachers of all stripes say the reason we close our hearts is because our coiled ego clenches in a self-centered contraction. I don’t think so. We do not close our hearts—at least not primarily—because we are bad, asleep or narcissistic. We close our hearts because the gap between our ability to feel and our ability to heal is simply too great to bear. It is so hard to open our hearts when they have been broken so many times.

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Conscious Evolution Meets Integral Unique Self & the Evolution of Love

Barbara Marx Hubbard and Marc Gafni Join Forces for the Evolution of Love

“The next stage in evolution is ‘Unique Selves’ joining Genius.” ~ Barbara Marx Hubbard

When Barbara Marx Hubbard, the Grande Dame of Conscious Evolution, and Marc Gafni met, it was truly a meeting of hearts, minds, souls, and Evolutionary Unique Selves.

Since then Barbara has joined the Executive Board of the Center for Integral Wisdom and Marc, Barbara, and Daniel Schmachtenberger have joined forces to work on a ground breaking new book The Conscious Universe: Participating in the Evolution of Love.

Enjoy the first part of their very first dialogue here:

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Applications Now Open for Unique Self Coaching Training Program in Fall

The Unique Self Coaching Training Program is a 9-month program that teaches coaches, therapists, spiritual directors, clergy and other professionals to utilize the Unique Self Coaching Process with individuals and groups. Co-developed by Unique Self teachers and Integral Coaches Barbara Alexander and Claire Molinard in close connection with Dr. Marc Gafni, the program is a practical, elegant structure rooted in the Unique Self Teachings and Integral Theory, designed to facilitate the emergence of one’s Unique Self.

Applications are now open for the fall training programs in the United States and in Europe.

The European training program begins on October 21, 2015 at the Venwoude Retreat Center in Lage-Vuursche, The Netherlands.

The US training program begins on November 11, 2015 at San Francisco Theological Seminary in San Anselmo, California.

Program descriptions and application forms are available on the Unique Self Coaching Collective website at www.uniqueselfcoaching.com.

Contact Claire or Barbara at info@uniqueselfcoaching.com with any questions. They will be happy to talk with you.

In this recent interview with Conscious 2, Integral Coach and Co-Founder of Unique Self Coaching Claire Molinard, interviewed by Alex Howard, speaks about the difference between True Self and Unique Self. She reveals some of the key practices that facilitate Unique Self emergence.

Watch the video here:

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SELF IN INTEGRAL EVOLUTIONARY MYSTICISM: Two Models and Why They Matter (Marc Gafni)

Marc Gafni’s new book SELF IN INTEGRAL EVOLUTIONARY MYSTICISM has been published:

Two major works have been written within the framework of Integral Wisdom about the nature of Self and God. While they share important features, namely the evolutionary context of the conversation and a vision of Self beyond Ego, their interior visions of the quality of the Self beyond Ego are profoundly different. Both of these visions of Self-or key dimensions of the two versions-have been adopted, directly and indirectly by many spiritual teachers. In this clear and compelling work Marc Gafni articulates the two models, their shared features, their differences and why–as we seek to articulate an Integral Wisdom–these differences matter so desperately.

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Barbara Marx Hubbard, the Grande Dame of Conscious Evolution, wrote this note of praise after reading SELF:

Reading SELF is a fabulous opening for me.

I will be teaching from it tonight on my Sacred Journey Course. The theme is Education Our Local Selves.

What I received from you is the understanding of how my own Unique Self can make intimate contact with the Unique Self of the students, “which further elicits the Unique Self of the teacher as well as the student.”

I have held back this passionate outpouring of intimate contact of Unique Self with Unique Self, and kept it into a personal realm, rather than the ubiquitous realm of Outrageous Love of all with no reserve.

It is explosive.  Tonight’s class I will be reading from SELF opening myself to my students in a new way.

I can now feel how to do it in my teaching, in the personal mentoring, and in my whole life with everyone everywhere…like you do!

Thank you, thank you, thank you for this great liberation that overcomes the illusion of separation and reserve (sort of a lady-like stance of reserve and decorum) that I believe I have had because I never encountered one who gave me the new experience amd example.

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Paul R. Smith, author of Integral Christianity: The Spirit’s Call to Evolve, wrote the following review:

When I look at the ten thousand books on spirituality, mysticism, and evolutionary religion in my library, I can tell, at a glance, without looking at titles, which ones were most helpful to me. They are the ones with Post-it notes sticking out from the top, marking pages that I found quite valuable. Self in Integral Evolutionary Mysticism by Marc Gafni is one of those few dozens with numerous colorful sticky notes flaming out from its top edge. Gafni’s previous book, Unique Self, was a breakthrough opening in understanding the Self in relation to union with God. This book continues by focusing on an opposing popular postmodern view of self and pointing out the crucial differences. With laser-like insight Gafni lets his view remain the only one I can joyfully endorse as an integrally-informed Christian mystic and scholar. This book shines with radiant luminosity and spiritual depth.

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Unique Self Dharma Goes Mainstream – Success 3.0 and Second Simplicity

CIW Web Scholar Kerstin Zohar Tuschik has written a blog-post on how the Unique Self Teaching has reached the Main Stream Consciousness by being the underlying current that informed much of what the speakers at the Success 3.0 Summit had to say about redefining Success.

Second Simplicity of Dharma

Marc Gafni 2014It was gorgeous to see the many ways the Dharma of Unique Self, Eros, Outrageous Love, and World Spirituality, that Dr. Marc Gafni has been articulating and outrageously transmitting for the last several years, has played a role in this amazing happening.

Most of the speakers started to use the 6-word Mantra Wake Up, Grow Up, Show Up. Dr. Marc Gafni, Visionary Scholar, Wisdom Teacher, and Co-Founder and President of CIW, brilliantly transmitted these thought forms in his opening speech. He suggested that every generation needs to participate in the evolution of consciousness. And:

“It is our turn. We are here to articulate an ethics of success that is rooted in Outrageous Love. Outrageous Love demands a new vision of success.”

He also introduced one of his key terms, the word Second Simplicity. Second Simplicity is what he calls the Simplicity that comes after Complexity. After having really grasped the complex concepts, we can get to a stage where we can express them in a compellingly simple way–thereby reaching people from all stages of consciousness.

Read the whole article here.

New Certification Program for Unique Self Coaching Launched

Barbara Alexander-2013

Barbara Alexander
Master Integral Coach

A new certification program in Unique Self Coaching designed by Integral Master Coaches Barbara Alexander and Claire Molinard at the request of Marc Gafni launched its first training in June 2014 as the Unique Self Coaching Collective. The program will run over a 9-month period, with three intensive meetings and nine months of both personal coaching and supervised Unique Self Coaching of volunteer clients.

Claire Molinard

Claire Molinard
Master Integral Coach

The foundation of the training is Ken Wilber’s Integral Theory and Marc Gafni’s Unique Self dharma. The process facilitates one diving inward to clarify the front edge of their development and engaging in practices that connect to Creative Source to engage one’s unique potential and embody the stabilized emergence of Unique Self consciousness.

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View the Unique Self Coaching Collective Training Brochure for 2015-16>>>

Visit the Unique Self Coaching Website>>>


Evolutionary Eros in Full Bloom at the 2014 Summer Festival of Love

by Kerstin Zohar Tuschik
Summer Festival of Love 2014This Summer Festival of Love at our Teaching Center at the Integral Practice Community Venwoude in Holland has again exceeded all expectations. More than 175 participants came to love and be loved open, to break the boundaries of their smallness, and to participate in the evolution of love itself. Read more—>

Unique Self: Reclaiming the Personal and Democratizing Enlightenment – An Excerpt from Zak Stein’s Review of Radical Kabbalah

Zach-SteinZachary Stein, Senior Analyst for the Developmental Testing, Deputy Director at Lectica, Inc., and as of late Academic Director of the Center for Integral Wisdom, has written a beautiful review about Marc Gafni‘s Radical Kabbalah for the Integral Review March 2014.

Here is a little excerpt:

Unique Self: Reclaiming the Personal and Democratizing Enlightenment

To my mind the core value of these books is that they reconfirm (in a compelling scholarly fashion) some of the most central ethical tenants of Western Civilization. Moreover, they do so by reminding us that the Judeo-Christian tradition contains a radical Enlightenment teaching, with a message about the collective Awakening of everyone everywhere. Gafni calls this the democratization of Enlightenment. This is a theological metaphysics justifying the reign of an Absolute Democracy, in which each must live so that all have the ability and dignity to be heard, known,  and counted. The mystical core of the great democratic political revolutions can be found in the cipher of ancient texts, reinterpreted in each age, and again today, in order to enliven the struggle to create a world-order conducive to human liberation. As Habermas has stressed, there is currently no replacement for the world-disclosing power of religious language, especially in its capacity to give voice to the profound vulnerabilities, interdependencies, and potentialities of human social life.

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