Marc Gafni on Evolutionary Unique Self & the Unique Self Symphony (Part 31)

Continued from part 30.

The next step is to wake up. Wake up to your true nature as an irreducibly unique expression of outrageous love. Who are you? You are an outrageous lover. What does an outrageous lover do? An outrageous lover commits outrageous acts of love. Which outrageous acts of love does an outrageous lover commit? Those that are a function of your Unique Self. It is only your outrageous acts of love emergent from your Unique Self which come together with other outrageous lovers committing their unique outrageous acts of love that have the capacity to heal the entire story.

That, my friends, is the basis for a radical hope. It’s the basis for a realistic but radical optimism. For it is the natural expression of human nature and evolution itself.  The sacred technology of evolutionary intimacy–another way of saying outrageous love—has the potential to create heaven on earth. I have spent the last several decades intensely searching and studying everything I could lay my hands on, reading tens and tens of thousands of pages in every tradition, pre-modern, modern, and postmodern. This is I know, way and above, the most realistic and hopeful vision of the evolution of love that we have today. We live in a world of outrageous pain. The only response to outrageous pain is outrageous love. Let’s awaken together and transform our world.

The End.

Taken from a first draft text from the forthcoming book The Path and Practice of Outrageous Love by Marc Gafni and Kristina Kincaid, this series elaborates on a critical advancement of the Unique Self Dharma that Dr. Marc has developed after Your Unique Self was published.

To start from the beginning go here and then follow the To Be Continued links.

Marc Gafni on Evolutionary Unique Self & the Unique Self Symphony (Part 30)

Continued from part 29.

An Invitation

Everywhere one looks there is outrageous pain. There is public pain and private pain. Seventeen million slaves exist in the world today—that’s more than there were at the height of the slave trade in the US two hundred years ago. Today 17,000 children die every day from starvation and twenty million children die of starvation every year. Billions of people are brutalized by loneliness and alienation.  The list of public outrageous pain goes on and on.

Then there is the private outrageous pain. This is the stuff from your personal life that hurts so badly. It may be something that was done to you or that you did. It might be the pain of betrayal, where you were either the betrayed or the betrayer. Or both. It might be the pain of a part of your life that is unlived or unloved. When you really face the pain, it is excruciating. So your turn your face away and get busy. We’re so frightened by outrageous pain that we’ve completely shut down. We close off our hearts because ordinary love cannot hold the pain.

The problem is, that we only have one heart. We cannot consistently shut down our heart and still remain openhearted. We think that we can selectively open our heart only to the channels of life whose programming appeals to us. That, however, is not the way the heart is designed. When you shut down you lose the signal and nothing comes. The result of repeatedly closing our hearts in face of the pain is loss of aliveness, depression, addiction and an unrelenting yearning for more.

The first step on the journey to awakening as an outrageous lover is to not hide from the pain. As a first step we need not to solve it, but turn our face towards it. Not all the time, but for only five minutes a day. The evolutionary mystics called this, “participating in the pain of love in exile.”

To carry out this practice, ordinary love is not strong enough to allow us to hold the pain. We need a larger love, wider and deeper love. That is outrageous love. But for now just locate outrageous love. Take a brief moment to think back on the largest love you have ever felt. Remember how in the embrace of that love there was room for everything? Now step into that love and double it. Triple it. Quadruple it. That is enough to locate the feeling tone of outrageous love. You can only respond to outrageous pain with outrageous love.

Now, from that place of outrageous love, think of a pain you are avoiding. Turn into the pain and stare directly at it for two or three minutes. Do not turn your thoughts away. Do not avert your gaze. Hold the outrageous pain in outrageous love.  That’s it. You have already done it. This is the first step to awakening that most people never take. Congratulations!

To be continued…

Taken from a first draft text from the forthcoming book The Path and Practice of Outrageous Love by Marc Gafni and Kristina Kincaid, this series elaborates on a critical advancement of the Unique Self Dharma that Dr. Marc has developed after Your Unique Self was published.

Marc Gafni on Evolutionary Unique Self & the Unique Self Symphony (Part 29)

Continued from part 28.

One of the laws of reality with which we began was, “we live in an intimate universe.” To be intimate meant to be both witnessed, recognized, seen and addressed. But it also meant mutuality. Both mutuality of action and mutuality of identity. Evolutionary intimacy is realized through the symphony of evolutionary Unique Selves each committing outrageous acts of love. In this, the human becomes God’s partner and a mutuality of partnerships is formed. Deeper still when the human being awakens as Evolutionary Unique Self realizing that he or she is an irreducibly unique expression of the love intelligence and love beauty of all that is – with unique outrageous acts of love to commit – the mutuality of identity between the human being and God is achieved. The human being becomes God’s verb.

You are an Outrageous Love Letter. The actual process of writing can help, but you are a LOVE Letter. Your life is a love letter. Your everyday actions are a love letter. Your energetic vibration in the world becomes a love letter.

In this vision personal love and intimacy and activism are seamlessly merged which is the critical need and invitation of our generation. The natures of the challenges that confront us are insoluble in the old top down model of government and the ruling elites. It is only a bottom up model of a self-organizing universe rooted in the Unique Self principle of Outrageous Love that shows us a profoundly hopeful path forward.

To be continued…

Taken from a first draft text from the forthcoming book The Path and Practice of Outrageous Love by Marc Gafni and Kristina Kincaid, this series elaborates on a critical advancement of the Unique Self Dharma that Dr. Marc has developed after Your Unique Self was published.

Marc Gafni on Evolutionary Unique Self & the Unique Self Symphony (Part 28)

Continued from part 27.

A person is aroused to identifying their unique gift through the practice of writing outrageous love letters. The writing of outrageous love letters awakens the person to their essential identity as an irreducibly unique expression of the love intelligence and love beauty of all.

When you awaken as the irreducibly unique verb of the love-intelligence living in you and as you, you begin to play your song. You sing the song that only you can sing. You write the outrageous love letter that only you can write. Deeper still you become the outrageous love letter that only you can be. You participate in the Unique Self-symphony of reality’s infinite creativity by playing your instrument, which is utterly necessary and needed by all that is. By acting locally as an outrageous lover within your circle of intimacy and influence, you play the notes, which begin to go viral.

Moreover by sharing these outrageous acts others are inspired to commit outrageous acts of love and the Unique Self symphony of outrageous love is deepened and expanded. The outrageous acts of love are shared organically through their being witnessed in every person’s circle of intimacy and influence. The outrageous acts of love are also shared however by a person writing the story of their outrageous act of love in an outrageous love letter. The personal heart opens again and again in outrageous love.  The heart of reality opens again and again to the outrageous love that is both source and destination.

This completely shifts our relationship to self, the world and love. Instead of constantly looking for the right person you look to become the right person. The right person means not right in any externally imposed code but right for you. Right for your soul’s code. Right for you means for Your Unique Self, which is an irreducibly unique expression of love intelligence, which lives in you and as you. Since there is only One Love and One Heart then a person’s opening up to their own irreducibly unique manifestation of outrageous love directly participates in the evolution of love.

By committing the outrageous acts of love that are an expression of your Unique Self you awaken the music of source which needs you to heal reality. You are filled with energy, joy and creative Eros. Your heart explodes in passion and emotion. Your beautiful mind is awake, creative and elegant. You have awakened as an outrageous lover writing outrageous love letters to all that is through your very being and becoming. This is a vision of evolutionary intimacy.

To be continued…

Taken from a first draft text from the forthcoming book The Path and Practice of Outrageous Love by Marc Gafni and Kristina Kincaid, this series elaborates on a critical advancement of the Unique Self Dharma that Dr. Marc has developed after Your Unique Self was published.

Marc Gafni on Evolutionary Unique Self & the Unique Self Symphony (Part 27)

Continued from part 26.

There is only one way to heal the collective trauma of our generation, which lives in you profoundly and personally. You must close the gap between your ability to feel and your ability to heal. How can you do that? You become potent and powerful. You claim your greatness. You wake up to your true identity. You begin to play a larger game. At this point you know our next sentence.  You realize that you are not merely a skin-encapsulated ego.

You are an irreducibly unique expression of the love-intelligence and love-beauty that is the initiating and animating Eros of all that is, that lives in you, as you, and through you, that never was, is, or will be ever again. You are a Unique Self. You are not merely a fingerprint. You are a Soul Print. You have a life to live and a gift to give which perfectly co-responds to a Unique Need in the world of un-love that can only be addressed and healed by you. When you awaken as Unique Self you are awakening into your own enlightenment. You are not meditating or praying your way to enlightenment. That rarely works anyways. You are loving your way to enlightenment. That never fails.

In the old world of top-down intelligence, we waited for Godot. This was the name of Samuel Becket’s famous play about waiting for a messiah to come and heal us. A messiah who will never come. In our new sacred evolutionary understanding of reality we realize that God both holds us and lives in us, as us and through us. Christ, Spirit, Love-intelligence, Love-beauty, Wisdom all awaken in our awakening.

The leading edges of science are now recognizing that the universe has an inherent, self-organizing quality of Eros. This quality of Eros or love-intelligence moves reality towards higher and higher levels of mutuality, recognition, union and embrace. This is not a top-down quality imposed by a king, a mythological, cosmic vending machine god imposing external and arbitrary laws. It is rather the sacred natural law of reality itself as recognized by all the great mystics in all the great traditions.

To get a sense of what we mean by self-organizing intelligence think, one last time of an anthill. As the pioneering work of E.O. Wilson already pointed out, a king or queen ant does not run the anthill. The gorgeous and precise orchestrated complexity and effectiveness of the anthill comes from “each ant ‘seeing’ at street level what is needed by its neighbors”. This is the principle of self-organization that the leading edges of science are now recognizing as the inherent nature of reality.

With a deep bow to anthills we as human beings have the capacity to awaken exponentially beyond the capacity of ants. It is true that we have limited resources as the political pundits or dire prophets remind us so often. But we have infinite creativity when we awaken as source.

No human beings need to heal the whole story. You cannot heal the whole story by yourself. Your desperate, yet beautiful desire to heal it all creates that gap between your ability to feel and your ability to heal which closes your heart. But, as a uniquely tuned instrument in the great self-organizing Unique Self-symphony, you can heal it all.

To be continued…

Taken from a first draft text from the forthcoming book The Path and Practice of Outrageous Love by Marc Gafni and Kristina Kincaid, this series elaborates on a critical advancement of the Unique Self Dharma that Dr. Marc has developed after Your Unique Self was published.

Marc Gafni on Evolutionary Unique Self & the Unique Self Symphony (Part 26)

Continued from part 25.

Let’s look again for example at the four major levels of moral development roughly termed egocentric, ethnocentric, worldcentric and cosmocentric. Each level transcends and includes the level that preceded it. At the egocentric level you have a felt sense of love only for yourself and your immediate circle. As you evolve you move to the ethnocentric level in which you have a felt sense of love for you and your entire tribe or nation. In healthy evolution you transcend and include. You still love yourself and your peeps but now you can feel love for your entire tribe. You then transcend and include one more level up towards worldcentric consciousness. At this level you have a felt sense of love not only for yourself and your people, for your tribe, but for all human beings. Finally you transcend and include one more level up to cosmocentric. Here you have a felt sense of love and concern for all the previous levels and for all sentient being and for all of reality. The meandering trajectory of evolution from quarks to cosmocentric consciousness is no less than the evolution of love.

In sweeping terms we might say that each of the six big bangs that we unpacked in chapter X, transcends and includes the big bang before it. Each level transcends and includes its previous level. Each level then is holding more, including more, loving more of reality. This is the process of the evolution of love. For evolution is once again seen as love in action. Biological evolution, the second big bang, transcends and includes cosmological evolution, the first big bang. Biology includes all the elements of chemistry and all the laws of physics. Cultural evolution, the third big bang, transcends and includes both biological and cosmological evolution. Cultural evolution includes all the laws of chemistry, physics and biology. Evolution awakening to itself, the fourth big bang, transcends and includes all of the previous levels of cultural evolution as well as all of the laws of biology, chemistry and physics. Evolution awakening as Your Evolutionary Unique Self, the fifth big bang, transcends and includes the fourth big bang—which is evolution awakening to its own self-awareness as a process, even before the individual awakens as the engine of evolution. It also includes all of cultural, biological and cosmological evolution. Finally the emergence of evolutionary we-space, the sixth big bang includes Evolutionary Unique Self, evolution awakening to itself, as well as cultural, biological and cosmological evolution. Each great flaring forth, each big bang transcends and includes all the big bangs that came before it even as it adds an entirely new emergent. The creative advance into novelty runs like a thread throughout, motivated by the evolutionary Eros itself.

To be continued…

Taken from a first draft text from the forthcoming book The Path and Practice of Outrageous Love by Marc Gafni and Kristina Kincaid, this series elaborates on a critical advancement of the Unique Self Dharma that Dr. Marc has developed after Your Unique Self was published.

Marc Gafni on Evolutionary Unique Self & the Unique Self Symphony (Part 25)

Continued from part 24.

A Politics of Outrageous Love

We began the book with the core of our post-post-modern, post-dogmatic, sacred creed. We live in a world of outrageous pain. The only response to outrageous pain is outrageous love. We then developed the distinction between ordinary love and outrageous love. Outrageous love is Source itself. We outlined the path to awaken as an outrageous lover—to commit the outrageous acts of love that are yours and yours alone to commit. We unpacked the practice—beyond meditation and prayer—of writing outrageous love letters. We then outlined the other key laws of love necessary to overcome the obstacles to awakening as an outrageous lover. We articulated the verbs of love, the stages of love, and the distortions of love that create shadow. We then turned to the great question: Why we close our hearts in the face of outrageous pain? We realized that our hearts close in the gap between our ability to feel and heal. To love is unbearably painful. Not to love is even more unbearably painful. When we close our hearts to outrageous pain our hearts close to their true feeling in every part of our life. To open our hearts we must close the gap between our ability to heal and our ability to feel.

This begins with the realization that it is not yours to heal it all. It is yours to respond as an outrageous lover—committing outrageous acts of love—that address a unique need that arises in your unique circle of intimacy and influence. You awaken as outrageous love by giving the unique gift that addresses this unique need in your unique circle of influence. Your unique gift is a natural function of your unique self—which is comprised of your unique perspective and your unique taste—the unique quality of intimacy that incarnates as you. In giving your unique gift your reclaim your potency. You reclaim your power to heal. By reclaiming your power to heal you reclaim your ability to feel the pain. You are able again to live with an open heart. You remain awake as outrageous love. You know that you cannot heal all of the pain. But you can hold that for you are able to powerfully address the pain that is yours to heal. That is the pain that can be addressed by the potency of your unique self.

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Marc Gafni on Evolutionary Unique Self & the Unique Self Symphony (Part 24)

Continued from part 23.

Insight: The irreducibly unique love intelligence of your Evolutionary Unique Self is the guiding principle of the self-organizing and self-actualizing cosmos. Evolutionary Unique Selves form Evolutionary We Space. In Evolutionary We Space a Unique Self Symphony is formed. As a participant in the Unique Self Symphony you feel potent, powerful and intimate with all of reality. This creates the communal form of Outrageous Love, which is called Evolutionary Intimacy.

But the Evolutionary Intimacy which is emergent from the Unique Self symphony is more than even that.

Unique Selves come together in the Unique Self Symphony and larger and larger networks of collective intelligence and wisdom. Unique Selves who are vocationally aroused in the same direction collaborate to create new nodes of love intelligence, which address unique needs in their unique circles of intimacy and influence. Peer networks are formed which are based on the irreducibly unique nature of each of the participants’ Unique Selves. These Unique Selves come together and constitute distinct movements and overtures in the Unique Self Symphony. These diverse Unique Selves form potent and powerful Evolutionary We Spaces, which are capable of catalyzing the evolution of love through their own awakened activism.

The evolutionary intimacy, engendered by the Unique Self Symphony, includes however not only all those living beings who show up in virtual space. The intimacy of the Unique Self Symphony transcends the barriers of time and includes all those who came before who contributed towards the multiplication of ideas that led to this particular creative moment. In this sense we might say that the Unique Self Symphony is not only improvisation, it is also the best in classical music. It receives with reverent love the authority of all previous cannons of wisdom even as it builds upon them, transforms them and evolves them. The Unique Self Symphony is the collective wisdom of all the great levels of consciousness from all the great previous eras of history, traditional, modern and postmodern. The Unique Self Symphony receives them all and integrates them all into a higher vibration. In effect the Unique Self symphony is a network of awakened lovers which includes all of the awakened lovers of the past and present.

To be continued…

Taken from a first draft text from the forthcoming book The Path and Practice of Outrageous Love by Marc Gafni and Kristina Kincaid, this series elaborates on a critical advancement of the Unique Self Dharma that Dr. Marc has developed after Your Unique Self was published.

Marc Gafni on Evolutionary Unique Self & the Unique Self Symphony (Part 23)

Continued from part 22.

Unique Selves enacting outrageous acts of love all over the world generate the Unique Self Symphony. The Unique Self Symphony is but reality self-organizing into an Evolutionary We-Space of Outrageous Love. Such a We-Space has the power to successfully address virtually every personal and social challenge we face.

When we get stuck in our narrow selves, trying to address some grasping greed, which we crave to fill an empty hole, then we inevitably stop giving our Unique Gifts. Our ego hijacks our Unique Self. Desperate grasping and the survival of the fittest become the evolutionary paradigms. But the deeper model of evolution is Evolutionary Love, the movement toward higher and higher levels of mutuality, recognition, union, and embrace in which each level of evolution gives its gifts and self-organizes through the natural intelligence of reality to a higher level.

When we self-organize to higher levels of complexity and consciousness it is because more and more specialization is coming online. More and more uniqueness is emerging. You could actually view the history of evolution as the evolution of uniqueness. It is the movement from unconscious uniqueness to conscious uniqueness that creates Evolutionary We-Space. At the level of anthills every ant needs to fulfill his particularly function. The same is true at the human level. It doesn’t mean that human beings are ants. Here’s the difference: The ant is driven by the imperative, instinctual intelligence built into reality. The human being, who is awakened as Evolutionary Unique Self, evolves from unconscious uniqueness to conscious uniqueness. The human being can only create heaven on earth by consciously choosing to incarnate and live Unique Self.

When you consciously choose to evolve and awaken as Unique Self, and give your unique gifts committing outrageous acts of love then everyone around you, inspired, attracted by the strange attractor of your example, begins to move toward their Unique Self. Reality self-organizes.

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Marc Gafni on Evolutionary Unique Self & the Unique Self Symphony (Part 22)

Continued from part 21.

Evolutionary Love

This principle of self-organization is critical in understanding the Outrageous Love which motivates an evolutionary Unique Self and animates every authentic evolutionary we space! It brings us directly back to the beginning of our reality consideration.

All of us know of the world’s suffering. We know that we live in a world of outrageous pain. It is overwhelming. Our senses are flooded. In an effort to merely survive, we close our hearts. We contract into the narrowest version of ourselves. We’re unable to engage the immensity of the global challenge until we reopen our hearts and once again stand for healing and transformation.

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