Take a Look at the Table of Contents

Explore the Table of Contents of Your Unique Self (complete PDF available for download).

Foreword by Ken Wilber

A Note to the Reader

Preface

Introduction

PART ONE

Chapter 1 The Great Invitation of Your Life
Chapter 2 The New Enlightenment of Unique Self
Chapter 3 Two Visions of Enlightenment and
Chapter 4 Eight Stations on the Road to Unique Self and Their Higher Integration in Unique Self
Chapter 5 The Evolutionary Integration of Eastern and Western
Chapter 6 Ego and Unique Self
Chapter 7 Personal and Impersonal

PART TWO

Chapter 8 Unique Self and Evolutionary Spirituality
Chapter 9 Evolutionary Spirituality Reloaded
Chapter 10 True Self and Unique Self, Parts and Wholes Reloaded
Chapter 11 Eros and Unique Self: The Eros of Living Your Story

PART THREE

Chapter 12 The Story of Story: Only Half the Story
Chapter 13 Sacred Autobiography
Chapter 14 Unique Self and Loneliness

PART FOUR

Chapter 15 Love and Unique Self
Chapter 16 Joy and Unique Self
Chapter 17 Shadow Integration and Unique Self
Chapter 18 The Ten Principles of Unique Self Shadow Work
Chapter 19 Shadow and Unique Self Reloaded:

PART FIVE

Chapter 20 Sex and Unique Self
Chapter 21 The Seven Laws of Unique Self Encounters

PART SIX

Chapter 22 Parenting and Unique Self
Chapter 23 Malice: The Denial of the Unique Self Encounter
Chapter 24 Death and Unique Self
Chapter 25 Say Yes

Epilogue: Unique Self, World Spirituality and Evolutionary We Space

Afterword by Ken Wilber

Appendix I Evolutionary Love

Appendix II Core Recapitulation and Unique Self

Appendix III Unique Self and Wounded Self

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Weekly Evolutionary Church Saturdays 9-10 am PT

You’re invited to join us on Saturday mornings from 9:00-10:00am PT, beginning this Saturday October 29th for Evolutionary Church: A communion between new humans participating in the evolution of culture and consciousness.

Evolutionary Church is where we gather to articulate, discover and experience the living memetic codes within our very being that are guiding us towards a positive future and evolving public culture.

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Together, we will:

Recover hope through our memory of the future
Reveal the direction of our personal and collective evolution
Fulfill our vocations of destiny
Awaken as our irreducibly unique selves and claim the beauty and obligation of our notes in the unique self symphony

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Evolutionary Church is an interactive, live-streamed event during which Barbara Marx Hubbard and Marc Gafni will usher us into a resonant field of allurement and love that serves as a potent catalyst in revealing the direction of our personal and collective evolution.

Each week Barbara and Marc will introduce an evolutionary theme and articulate a message based that theme. Then YOU will be invited to speak your voice, as part of the Unique Self Symphony, into what Teillard De Chardin called the Noosphere, the evolving consciousness of reality – enabling it to get it’s collective eyes.

Evolutionary Church is more than hearing a sunday sermon–it is a living transmission that nurtures and amplifies the evolutionary impulse within you, activating the emergence of

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New possibility
New innovation
New joy

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Marc Gafni on Evolutionary Unique Self & the Unique Self Symphony (Part 31)

Continued from part 30.

The next step is to wake up. Wake up to your true nature as an irreducibly unique expression of outrageous love. Who are you? You are an outrageous lover. What does an outrageous lover do? An outrageous lover commits outrageous acts of love. Which outrageous acts of love does an outrageous lover commit? Those that are a function of your Unique Self. It is only your outrageous acts of love emergent from your Unique Self which come together with other outrageous lovers committing their unique outrageous acts of love that have the capacity to heal the entire story.

That, my friends, is the basis for a radical hope. It’s the basis for a realistic but radical optimism. For it is the natural expression of human nature and evolution itself. The sacred technology of evolutionary intimacy–another way of saying outrageous love—has the potential to create heaven on earth. I have spent the last several decades intensely searching and studying everything I could lay my hands on, reading tens and tens of thousands of pages in every tradition, pre-modern, modern, and postmodern. This is I know, way and above, the most realistic and hopeful vision of the evolution of love that we have today. We live in a world of outrageous pain. The only response to outrageous pain is outrageous love. Let’s awaken together and transform our world.

The End.

Taken from a first draft text from the forthcoming book The Path and Practice of Outrageous Love by Marc Gafni and Kristina Kincaid, this series elaborates on a critical advancement of the Unique Self Dharma that Dr. Marc has developed after Your Unique Self was published.

To start from the beginning go here and then follow the To Be Continued links.

Marc Gafni on Evolutionary Unique Self & the Unique Self Symphony (Part 30)

Continued from part 29.

An Invitation

Everywhere one looks there is outrageous pain. There is public pain and private pain. Seventeen million slaves exist in the world today—that’s more than there were at the height of the slave trade in the US two hundred years ago. Today 17,000 children die every day from starvation and twenty million children die of starvation every year. Billions of people are brutalized by loneliness and alienation. The list of public outrageous pain goes on and on.

Then there is the private outrageous pain. This is the stuff from your personal life that hurts so badly. It may be something that was done to you or that you did. It might be the pain of betrayal, where you were either the betrayed or the betrayer. Or both. It might be the pain of a part of your life that is unlived or unloved. When you really face the pain, it is excruciating. So your turn your face away and get busy. We’re so frightened by outrageous pain that we’ve completely shut down. We close off our hearts because ordinary love cannot hold the pain.

The problem is, that we only have one heart. We cannot consistently shut down our heart and still remain openhearted. We think that we can selectively open our heart only to the channels of life whose programming appeals to us. That, however, is not the way the heart is designed. When you shut down you lose the signal and nothing comes. The result of repeatedly closing our hearts in face of the pain is loss of aliveness, depression, addiction and an unrelenting yearning for more.

The first step on the journey to awakening as an outrageous lover is to not hide from the pain. As a first step we need not to solve it, but turn our face towards it. Not all the time, but for only five minutes a day. The evolutionary mystics called this, “participating in the pain of love in exile.”

To carry out this practice, ordinary love is not strong enough to allow us to hold the pain. We need a larger love, wider and deeper love. That is outrageous love. But for now just locate outrageous love. Take a brief moment to think back on the largest love you have ever felt. Remember how in the embrace of that love there was room for everything? Now step into that love and double it. Triple it. Quadruple it. That is enough to locate the feeling tone of outrageous love. You can only respond to outrageous pain with outrageous love.

Now, from that place of outrageous love, think of a pain you are avoiding. Turn into the pain and stare directly at it for two or three minutes. Do not turn your thoughts away. Do not avert your gaze. Hold the outrageous pain in outrageous love. That’s it. You have already done it. This is the first step to awakening that most people never take. Congratulations!

To be continued…

Taken from a first draft text from the forthcoming book The Path and Practice of Outrageous Love by Marc Gafni and Kristina Kincaid, this series elaborates on a critical advancement of the Unique Self Dharma that Dr. Marc has developed after Your Unique Self was published.

Marc Gafni on Evolutionary Unique Self & the Unique Self Symphony (Part 29)

Continued from part 28.

One of the laws of reality with which we began was, “we live in an intimate universe.” To be intimate meant to be both witnessed, recognized, seen and addressed. But it also meant mutuality. Both mutuality of action and mutuality of identity. Evolutionary intimacy is realized through the symphony of evolutionary Unique Selves each committing outrageous acts of love. In this, the human becomes God’s partner and a mutuality of partnerships is formed. Deeper still when the human being awakens as Evolutionary Unique Self realizing that he or she is an irreducibly unique expression of the love intelligence and love beauty of all that is – with unique outrageous acts of love to commit – the mutuality of identity between the human being and God is achieved. The human being becomes God’s verb.

You are an Outrageous Love Letter. The actual process of writing can help, but you are a LOVE Letter. Your life is a love letter. Your everyday actions are a love letter. Your energetic vibration in the world becomes a love letter.

In this vision personal love and intimacy and activism are seamlessly merged which is the critical need and invitation of our generation. The natures of the challenges that confront us are insoluble in the old top down model of government and the ruling elites. It is only a bottom up model of a self-organizing universe rooted in the Unique Self principle of Outrageous Love that shows us a profoundly hopeful path forward.

To be continued…

Taken from a first draft text from the forthcoming book The Path and Practice of Outrageous Love by Marc Gafni and Kristina Kincaid, this series elaborates on a critical advancement of the Unique Self Dharma that Dr. Marc has developed after Your Unique Self was published.

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