Unique Self

Marc Gafni on Evolutionary Unique Self & the Unique Self Symphony (Part 31)

Continued from part 30.

The next step is to wake up. Wake up to your true nature as an irreducibly unique expression of outrageous love. Who are you? You are an outrageous lover. What does an outrageous lover do? An outrageous lover commits outrageous acts of love. Which outrageous acts of love does an outrageous lover commit? Those that are a function of your Unique Self. It is only your outrageous acts of love emergent from your Unique Self which come together with other outrageous lovers committing their unique outrageous acts of love that have the capacity to heal the entire story.

That, my friends, is the basis for a radical hope. It’s the basis for a realistic but radical optimism. For it is the natural expression of human nature and evolution itself.  The sacred technology of evolutionary intimacy–another way of saying outrageous love—has the potential to create heaven on earth. I have spent the last several decades intensely searching and studying everything I could lay my hands on, reading tens and tens of thousands of pages in every tradition, pre-modern, modern, and postmodern. This is I know, way and above, the most realistic and hopeful vision of the evolution of love that we have today. We live in a world of outrageous pain. The only response to outrageous pain is outrageous love. Let’s awaken together and transform our world.

The End.

Taken from a first draft text from the forthcoming book The Path and Practice of Outrageous Love by Marc Gafni and Kristina Kincaid, this series elaborates on a critical advancement of the Unique Self Dharma that Dr. Marc has developed after Your Unique Self was published.

To start from the beginning go here and then follow the To Be Continued links.

Marc Gafni on Evolutionary Unique Self & the Unique Self Symphony (Part 30)

Continued from part 29.

An Invitation

Everywhere one looks there is outrageous pain. There is public pain and private pain. Seventeen million slaves exist in the world today—that’s more than there were at the height of the slave trade in the US two hundred years ago. Today 17,000 children die every day from starvation and twenty million children die of starvation every year. Billions of people are brutalized by loneliness and alienation.  The list of public outrageous pain goes on and on.

Then there is the private outrageous pain. This is the stuff from your personal life that hurts so badly. It may be something that was done to you or that you did. It might be the pain of betrayal, where you were either the betrayed or the betrayer. Or both. It might be the pain of a part of your life that is unlived or unloved. When you really face the pain, it is excruciating. So your turn your face away and get busy. We’re so frightened by outrageous pain that we’ve completely shut down. We close off our hearts because ordinary love cannot hold the pain.

The problem is, that we only have one heart. We cannot consistently shut down our heart and still remain openhearted. We think that we can selectively open our heart only to the channels of life whose programming appeals to us. That, however, is not the way the heart is designed. When you shut down you lose the signal and nothing comes. The result of repeatedly closing our hearts in face of the pain is loss of aliveness, depression, addiction and an unrelenting yearning for more.

The first step on the journey to awakening as an outrageous lover is to not hide from the pain. As a first step we need not to solve it, but turn our face towards it. Not all the time, but for only five minutes a day. The evolutionary mystics called this, “participating in the pain of love in exile.”

To carry out this practice, ordinary love is not strong enough to allow us to hold the pain. We need a larger love, wider and deeper love. That is outrageous love. But for now just locate outrageous love. Take a brief moment to think back on the largest love you have ever felt. Remember how in the embrace of that love there was room for everything? Now step into that love and double it. Triple it. Quadruple it. That is enough to locate the feeling tone of outrageous love. You can only respond to outrageous pain with outrageous love.

Now, from that place of outrageous love, think of a pain you are avoiding. Turn into the pain and stare directly at it for two or three minutes. Do not turn your thoughts away. Do not avert your gaze. Hold the outrageous pain in outrageous love.  That’s it. You have already done it. This is the first step to awakening that most people never take. Congratulations!

To be continued…

Taken from a first draft text from the forthcoming book The Path and Practice of Outrageous Love by Marc Gafni and Kristina Kincaid, this series elaborates on a critical advancement of the Unique Self Dharma that Dr. Marc has developed after Your Unique Self was published.

Marc Gafni on Evolutionary Unique Self & the Unique Self Symphony (Part 29)

Continued from part 28.

One of the laws of reality with which we began was, “we live in an intimate universe.” To be intimate meant to be both witnessed, recognized, seen and addressed. But it also meant mutuality. Both mutuality of action and mutuality of identity. Evolutionary intimacy is realized through the symphony of evolutionary Unique Selves each committing outrageous acts of love. In this, the human becomes God’s partner and a mutuality of partnerships is formed. Deeper still when the human being awakens as Evolutionary Unique Self realizing that he or she is an irreducibly unique expression of the love intelligence and love beauty of all that is – with unique outrageous acts of love to commit – the mutuality of identity between the human being and God is achieved. The human being becomes God’s verb.

You are an Outrageous Love Letter. The actual process of writing can help, but you are a LOVE Letter. Your life is a love letter. Your everyday actions are a love letter. Your energetic vibration in the world becomes a love letter.

In this vision personal love and intimacy and activism are seamlessly merged which is the critical need and invitation of our generation. The natures of the challenges that confront us are insoluble in the old top down model of government and the ruling elites. It is only a bottom up model of a self-organizing universe rooted in the Unique Self principle of Outrageous Love that shows us a profoundly hopeful path forward.

To be continued…

Taken from a first draft text from the forthcoming book The Path and Practice of Outrageous Love by Marc Gafni and Kristina Kincaid, this series elaborates on a critical advancement of the Unique Self Dharma that Dr. Marc has developed after Your Unique Self was published.

Marc Gafni on Evolutionary Unique Self & the Unique Self Symphony (Part 28)

Continued from part 27.

A person is aroused to identifying their unique gift through the practice of writing outrageous love letters. The writing of outrageous love letters awakens the person to their essential identity as an irreducibly unique expression of the love intelligence and love beauty of all.

When you awaken as the irreducibly unique verb of the love-intelligence living in you and as you, you begin to play your song. You sing the song that only you can sing. You write the outrageous love letter that only you can write. Deeper still you become the outrageous love letter that only you can be. You participate in the Unique Self-symphony of reality’s infinite creativity by playing your instrument, which is utterly necessary and needed by all that is. By acting locally as an outrageous lover within your circle of intimacy and influence, you play the notes, which begin to go viral.

Moreover by sharing these outrageous acts others are inspired to commit outrageous acts of love and the Unique Self symphony of outrageous love is deepened and expanded. The outrageous acts of love are shared organically through their being witnessed in every person’s circle of intimacy and influence. The outrageous acts of love are also shared however by a person writing the story of their outrageous act of love in an outrageous love letter. The personal heart opens again and again in outrageous love.  The heart of reality opens again and again to the outrageous love that is both source and destination.

This completely shifts our relationship to self, the world and love. Instead of constantly looking for the right person you look to become the right person. The right person means not right in any externally imposed code but right for you. Right for your soul’s code. Right for you means for Your Unique Self, which is an irreducibly unique expression of love intelligence, which lives in you and as you. Since there is only One Love and One Heart then a person’s opening up to their own irreducibly unique manifestation of outrageous love directly participates in the evolution of love.

By committing the outrageous acts of love that are an expression of your Unique Self you awaken the music of source which needs you to heal reality. You are filled with energy, joy and creative Eros. Your heart explodes in passion and emotion. Your beautiful mind is awake, creative and elegant. You have awakened as an outrageous lover writing outrageous love letters to all that is through your very being and becoming. This is a vision of evolutionary intimacy.

To be continued…

Taken from a first draft text from the forthcoming book The Path and Practice of Outrageous Love by Marc Gafni and Kristina Kincaid, this series elaborates on a critical advancement of the Unique Self Dharma that Dr. Marc has developed after Your Unique Self was published.